Treenymph wrote:
When I think long distance relationship, I don’t jump to thinking of online dating...but I suppose that’s a much more common occurrence now.
Anyway, I don’t think a relationship that is permanently long distance can work...for what I hope are obvious reasons.
However any relationship can survive various bouts of long distances...just depends on the relationship and the situation involved. Usually, the longer the relationship was before the distance, the more likely it will continue during and afterward.
Of course if they are perminately long distance they won’t really work, but after a while one or the other makes the commitment to move to be near each other.
i find that if someone is under 35 years old, starting off a relationship over the internet is idiotic and is destined to fail. after 35, if you’re still single, grab what you can.
JuiceLayer wrote:
i find that if someone is under 35 years old, starting off a relationship over the internet is idiotic and is destined to fail. after 35, if you’re still single, grab what you can.
I disagree.
Although age is somewhat of a factor, it is not as important as maturity and commitment. I’d say, as a rough estimate and regarding that both are mature and committed, long distance relationships would work well between 18 and 35, possibly 40.
In fact, one of my friend’s relationship is a long distance one and is going well, and she’s my age.
JuiceLayer wrote:
i find that if someone is under 35 years old, starting off a relationship over the internet is idiotic and is destined to fail. after 35, if you’re still single, grab what you can.
I agree with your idea but not with your point of view.
If you are young, the majority of your fellow age group is more likely then not single. Rather then someone in their late 40’s who doesn’t have as much time on their hands (perhaps work or has a family) to look around and date. Unfortunately, teens in this era tend to be more computer associated and socially deprived (anti-social) so they develop habits of shy and awkwardness which leads them to rely on online support to get to know a member of the opposite sex. This is NOT a good way of coming around in relationships.
I agree that if you are young you should in fact atleast try to test the field before you limit yourself to online support. Especially when you have all the time in the world.
I disagree that it is destined to fail, idiotic perhaps.. I would go more with lack of rationality. However, an online/ long distance relationship is a lot less likely to work if both ends are young and not experienced. It would be deemed the same as two young birds trying to teach each other how to fly. Not saying that the relationship is destined to fail but perhaps the percentage of it working are narrowed down.
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Treenymph wrote:
When I think long distance relationship, I don’t jump to thinking of online dating...but I suppose that’s a much more common occurrence now.
Anyway, I don’t think a relationship that is permanently long distance can work...for what I hope are obvious reasons.
However any relationship can survive various bouts of long distances...just depends on the relationship and the situation involved. Usually, the longer the relationship was before the distance, the more likely it will continue during and afterward.
Of course if they are perminately long distance they won’t really work, but after a while one or the other makes the commitment to move to be near each other.
This would be my bag of tea for you, take it or don’t;
Applying the same principles and thought patterns of all the failed relationships you have been in, is more likely then not going to produce the same outcome.
I am not going to tell you that this relationship is not going to work out. But I will tell you with confidence that if you apply the same principles as your last relationship, the percentage of it working is going to be hurt quite a lot. And yes, you are applying the same clingy principles which drove your ex girlfriend away “Hobbies: Talking to my amazing girlfriend, The Saint, Nicholas, is in love! etc.." is not an attractive feature. The females I know, look at clingyness as a characteristic deformity not an act of love. And that is exactly what it is, my friend.
IF I was you and IF I was into the online dating scheme. I would add more hobbies and activities to my life to reward myself with boosts of self-confidence. I would not be clingy, I would however be sweet, romantic, caring but not to the point that I am deemed a push over or to the point I appear weak and insecure.
Don’t be clingy, don’t plan your children’s names, don’t stress apon the future or even think that she is going to be your future wife. It is not cute, it is creepy and needy and alot of junk that you don’t want to be put under. Live for the moment and enjoy the experiences you have with talking to her. *EDIT*
You are willing to throw your whole life away to “live” with a girl you just met. I either clap for you or give you a facepalm. I guess we will find out.
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Pagemaster thinks he knows what a relationship is. That was not a relationship, kid. When you two are at each other’s throats, fighting like cats and dogs in a few years time and work out your problems together, then make love sexy time and trust one each other on a mutual level.... After putting up with 10 years of your disgusting manly-pigheadedness ass (lol) and she stills loves and respects you... Then you’ve been in a relationship!
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
all Saints are Martyrs if you can’t handle it you lose your membership
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
all Saints are Martyrs if you can’t handle it you lose your membership
Not all. Saint Nicholas wasn’t. He was just a very generous man who loved children and made toys for them.
But I can handle the criticism and all. My life is grand right now. My future is looking good. I don’t care what anyone has to say about it.
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
all Saints are Martyrs if you can’t handle it you lose your membership
Not all. Saint Nicholas wasn’t. He was just a very generous man who loved children and made toys for them.
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
all Saints are Martyrs if you can’t handle it you lose your membership
Not all. Saint Nicholas wasn’t. He was just a very generous man who loved children and made toys for them.
A pedophile?
Could have been. haha. I mean, come on, giving away toys JUST for room and board for a few nights. As if.
Regarding the actual topic, I’m going to say no. Long distance relationships might be okay to begin with but ultimately they have to stop being long distance or it will fail. After having been through more than one, all of which ultimately failed because of the distance, I have to say long distance relationships lack the viability of relationships where you can actually be with the other person. That’s not to say that a long distance relationship can’t lead to this, but it has to eventually or it won’t pan out.
Maggot Face wrote:
Regarding the actual topic, I’m going to say no. Long distance relationships might be okay to begin with but ultimately they have to stop being long distance or it will fail. After having been through more than one, all of which ultimately failed because of the distance, I have to say long distance relationships lack the viability of relationships where you can actually be with the other person. That’s not to say that a long distance relationship can’t lead to this, but it has to eventually or it won’t pan out.
Yeah, that’s exactly it.
I’m in my second long distance relationship,and I’m going to graduate hs in March, and make a big move to be with my gf. only 5 months of it being long distance and then it turns into a real relationship.
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
all Saints are Martyrs if you can’t handle it you lose your membership
Not all. Saint Nicholas wasn’t. He was just a very generous man who loved children and made toys for them.
But I can handle the criticism and all. My life is grand right now. My future is looking good. I don’t care what anyone has to say about it.
Actually he is in the Book of Maryrs because he was imprisoned when christians were persectuted by Maximian and Diocletian. Until Constantine released him and reinstated him as Bishop of Myra.
Learn of your Namesake if you are going to claim to be a Saint
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
I never bashed you once. I was stating my opinion as to why I don’t think you should be giving relationship advise.
I wasn’t necessarily talking about you. And I HAVE been in other relationships. The one with Kristen was just the longest. Between Kristine and Kristen *the first two I told you* I dated a few girls, and in between Kristen and Brittany *My current gf* some more.
Pagemaster wrote:
lol, I love it how like 95% of this topic is bashing me. Wow, since Josh and Chillyman are gone, you decide that I am the next contestant for bashing.
Oi, you guys are just hilarious. I love it, truly do. Unlike the other 2 and all those before them, it will take a lot to break me. So give up while you still can.
Stop, I am not bashing you. If I was bashing you I would be flaming, I am simply talking from experience and what not.
If you are taking it as bashing then you are being insecure on the issue at hand, do you not agree that not being able to see each other is an issue at hand?
What makes you think she can wait 5 months for the possibility of seeing you? I don’t know man.. I was in one online/long distance relationship when I was 13 and it lasted two months because I got tired of it and thought it was immature, especially as most of the questions she had were about my life while an actual gf can see what my situation is about. Ya know?
But its cool man, do your thing. If you like online relationships like Cid, then perhaps you moving to his house would be a good thing.
However, who is saying that Cid and Chaos will take you in? They are already in poverty and feeding another kid is most likely not on their priorities. Do you have money? A Job? What do you have except for an idea?
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What makes you think she can wait 5 months for the possibility of seeing you? I don’t know man.. I was in one online/long distance relationship when I was 13 and it lasted two months because I got tired of it and thought it was immature, especially as most of the questions she had were about my life while an actual gf can see what my situation is about. Ya know?
To see her? No, I am doing that in December. I’m talking about actually making a move to her. And some of us don’t care about those questions. Some of us want to get to know our significant other more. To understand them at a deeper level. Whether it is mature or not is dependent on your thought process. Everyone views it differently.
However, who is saying that Cid and Chaos will take you in? They are already in poverty and feeding another kid is most likely not on their priorities. Do you have money? A Job? What do you have except for an idea?
Not at all, where the fuck did you get that? I am just going to hang out with them a bit while I’m there in December.
I have plans and whatnot for the future with jobs and money and such. I just do not share them on this site. I only share them with family, my best friend, and my girlfriend. Nobody else needs to know my true plans. Not all of them at least.
I may not get a job that pays as much as yours does, but I have plans for pretty good jobs.
I have a house that is pretty much mine if I want it, and if I am still with Brittany when she graduates from HS then I will leave it up to her whether or not we take that house. I feel that it would help her with her dream of being a tattoo artist, and we could raise a fairly large family if we wanted, and we could make some money out of it as an Inn or Cafe or combination of the two plus more.
Man, I have been with Brittany for a year and a half. It is a serious relationship, I don’t think I have even once thought about kids, a house and what not. I don’t even know how you can think about that when you JUST met her? What? You have been dating for what? a Week? And you already have plans on a house, a job, kids and what not?
Oookkaaayyy dude.
And no the “Some of us want to get to know our significant other more. To understand them at a deeper level” is complete horse tard, please.. you are not speaking to an idiotic kindergarden currently drop that bullsh*t.
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oh harrow wrote:
Man, I have been with Brittany for a year and a half. It is a serious relationship, I don’t think I have even once thought about kids, a house and what not. I don’t even know how you can think about that when you JUST met her? What? You have been dating for what? a Week? And you already have plans on a house, a job, kids and what not?
Oookkaaayyy dude.
And no the “Some of us want to get to know our significant other more. To understand them at a deeper level” is complete horse tard, please.. you are not speaking to a idiotic kindergarden currently drop that bullsh*t.
*sigh* so naive at times, Chris.
Maybe you haven’t talked about kids because you are unsure of whether or not you want them. I don’t have plans for a house with her, I have plans for a house that I already own that I would let her decide if we use or not when it gets more serious. Yeah it’s been a week, but some of us move faster than others. Just because I am a different person who moves at different speeds, doesn’t mean it is wrong. Just different from what you are use to.
