I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
Many of us feel this way, you are not alone.
The way I beat it was by dating someone over the internet. You get to know them a lot, people aren’t as shy over the internet, you can talk on the phone and be shy, girls sometimes think that is cute. I’m sure you could find a really nice girl over the internet. You get to know them before you have to meet them in person, and they help you feel a lot better. Just be yourself with them. Sometimes it wont work out, but it is still worth the try.
Join some social networking sites. that’s the best place to meet them.
I’ve moved 12 times in the past 5 years. It’s tough to build up truly good friendships when I move so much. My “circle” of friends is small. Few of them even know each other, because they all live in different places. What I want is some companionship when my day is done. Someone who cares about me. Someone to snuggle with.
I hit a turning point in the past week. I’m still unsure if it was a positive or a negative turning point. Time will tell. I was rejected quite brutally by a long-term friend/crush. This after she fooled around with me. Thankfully it never escalated so far as sex, but there was still an intimacy which I felt meant a lot. She didn’t feel anything apparently.
So I sit here, thinking about how I hate watching movies by myself, but here I am...watching a movie by myself.
The laughs, the sadness. None of it means anything without someone to share it with. It’s just empty.
I don’t know how I’ll get through the weekend. No worries by the way. I’m not talking about suicide. Just loneliness.
GoogleLonely wrote:
Here I am, just another Google Lonely initiate.
I’ve moved 12 times in the past 5 years. It’s tough to build up truly good friendships when I move so much. My “circle” of friends is small. Few of them even know each other, because they all live in different places. What I want is some companionship when my day is done. Someone who cares about me. Someone to snuggle with.
I hit a turning point in the past week. I’m still unsure if it was a positive or a negative turning point. Time will tell. I was rejected quite brutally by a long-term friend/crush. This after she fooled around with me. Thankfully it never escalated so far as sex, but there was still an intimacy which I felt meant a lot. She didn’t feel anything apparently.
So I sit here, thinking about how I hate watching movies by myself, but here I am...watching a movie by myself.
The laughs, the sadness. None of it means anything without someone to share it with. It’s just empty.
I don’t know how I’ll get through the weekend. No worries by the way. I’m not talking about suicide. Just loneliness.
Thanks for having this forum to share on.
I’ve been there and done that. It is hard, it is painful, but you will get over it.
If you need to talk at all, , just talk about it, ask questions.
im 15 and i havnt been in a relationship for a while but i cant stop thinking about my ex whos now with my old friend, who i fell out with because of my ex, and everyday i still feel lonely; missing her and i look at all the people around me and i dont see anything special that i had with my ex, and i feel like im going to be lonely for some time and i dont know what to do because all my friends dont understand and i have no one to talk to, because i havnt let anyone get close to me because im not over my ex, all i want is too feel loved again and have someone in my arms to call my own.
just a lonely guy. wrote:
im 15 and i havnt been in a relationship for a while but i cant stop thinking about my ex whos now with my old friend, who i fell out with because of my ex, and everyday i still feel lonely; missing her and i look at all the people around me and i dont see anything special that i had with my ex, and i feel like im going to be lonely for some time and i dont know what to do because all my friends dont understand and i have no one to talk to, because i havnt let anyone get close to me because im not over my ex, all i want is too feel loved again and have someone in my arms to call my own.
I just got through this, I know exactly how you feel.
The best thing to do is move on. Find someone new. Don’t be afraid to look online to find that someone. Use myspace or something.
The heart is made up of entangled memories, those memories make up our feelings and what not. The best thing to do is to let go of some of those strands of memory so that your feelings can get better.
I found my current gf on MyYearbook.com. As soon as I started talking to her, my ex was a dream of the past. those memories don’t haunt me anymore. Life is looking better than ever. My current gf is way better at making me happy than my ex, and she is so much cuter.
Feeling the way you do at your age, or any for that matter, is potentially dangerous. Don’t let life get you down.
Good Luck to you.
Hi mates. No friends, no girlfriend, no social life, no job, I sit at home all day every day and have done for the past 2 years. I’m ready to give up and feel my self heading towards the cowardly way out. Im tired of this and just want to end this miserable existence.
himates wrote:
Hi mates. No friends, no girlfriend, no social life, no job, I sit at home all day every day and have done for the past 2 years. I’m ready to give up and feel my self heading towards the cowardly way out. Im tired of this and just want to end this miserable existence.
Bye mates.
You have to actually take initiative and do something. It’s not going to get better if you just sit on your ass moping about it.
himates wrote:
Hi mates. No friends, no girlfriend, no social life, no job, I sit at home all day every day and have done for the past 2 years. I’m ready to give up and feel my self heading towards the cowardly way out. Im tired of this and just want to end this miserable existence.
Bye mates.
You have to actually take initiative and do something. It’s not going to get better if you just sit on your ass moping about it.
Exactly, you can’t expect your life to improve at any random time, you have to take initiative and work to improve it.
Look for a job.
Start talking to people.
Get off the couch,
Get outside.
Make some friends.
Find a girlfriend.
For the friends and girlfriend part, if you are having trouble in your area, look online, make some friends on the web.
Just take control of your life, don’t let it control you and bring you down.
Alot of things bring me back. A need for a smile, a need to know its not just me, a need to connect, a need to tell my story, and most of all that lonely feeling..
Lovers come and go, so do our feelings with them. I understand this, and believe it, but cannot accept it.
I met a girl who was not like any girl I had ever met. I then proceeded to run away from commitment. Eight months later; regret and a painful realization that those days are gone.
She is now engaged to a drunk boyfriend, and I am left stewing in my solitude.
Reconnect? I attempted to just a few weeks ago. It was going well until she pointed out to me that I was too late.
Alot of things bring me back. A need for a smile, a need to know its not just me, a need to connect, a need to tell my story, and most of all that lonely feeling..
Lovers come and go, so do our feelings with them. I understand this, and believe it, but cannot accept it.
I met a girl who was not like any girl I had ever met. I then proceeded to run away from commitment. Eight months later; regret and a painful realization that those days are gone.
She is now engaged to a drunk boyfriend, and I am left stewing in my solitude.
Reconnect? I attempted to just a few weeks ago. It was going well until she pointed out to me that I was too late.
Moving on, one day at a time.
The best thing to do in this situation is to fnd someone who is better than her. It may seem impossible, but she is out there. Believe me, same thing happened to me. I found my current love online. Through MyYearbook.com
I thought my ex was perfect, I was wrong, I found someone better, and it was all thanks to moving on.
I have started thinking that by seeking “the right girl” I am actually putting way too much pressure into a relationship.
Like, if I go in headstrong hoping that she will be the perfect girl then chances are I will mess it up because I am putting far too much effort and thought into every move. And so I become paralyzed for fear of making the wrong move - and end up alone because I can’t step outside my box without this over-analyzed fear.
I have started thinking that by seeking “the right girl” I am actually putting way too much pressure into a relationship.
Like, if I go in headstrong hoping that she will be the perfect girl then chances are I will mess it up because I am putting far too much effort and thought into every move. And so I become paralyzed for fear of making the wrong move - and end up alone because I can’t step outside my box without this over-analyzed fear.
And hey man, thanks for responding.
Don’t worry about over analyzing or thinking things in a relationship. The best of us do it because we need to. We want them to last forever. We don’t want to lose them. If you aren’t sure they are the one, don’t think, just do. But if you want them to be the one, then you can think and do. I use to think too much that I wouldn’t get anything done out of fear, but I have changed thanks to a girl. Everything will get better.
im feeling really really low 2 nite as im a cmplete loser i guess....
iv dn ma engineerin and only i know how i did it....i didnt have gud frnz.....no girl frnz....n low marks......by 4th year,i was sooo lonely n left wid no frnz dat i had 2 take a single room in hostel.
iv spnt my 4 yrs in total isolation n dat changd my prsnality a lot.i was a stud at school...i was popular,happy,had a nice bike,nice frnz n also a girl frnd...in fact dr was a time i was double timing!!my results wr also fab...
it was a total reshuffle 4 me wn i wnt 2 college...i met sm new ppl....dey wr ok bt crtnly nt my kinds..i am a lively prsn...maybe dey didnt lyk it....i startd losin all d hold......dn i was made a fun item...my lyf totally changed....i became lonely..
today.....1 of my so called frnz posted a comment regarding my v prsnal lyf....n evry1s makin fun of it on facebook...its happenin n i cant stop it.....i cant do nethin.....i feel so helpless dese ppl are makin fun of me....
i m fukin alone....a total loser nw....changed for d bad...
im not over my ex girlfriend so am lonely and cant find someone new, but yesterday i met some drunk friends who were camping i made out with one and now her whole group hates me and rumours are going already and i dont know wat to do because i dont deal with rumours very well, and now all the girls at my school pretty much hate me so i cant find a girlfriend there and most of the girls in other schools dont like me and are taken, im lost and keep getting the feeling of going back to my scars, although i wont, i cant stop the feelings.
Hi, I’m lonely too and a little depressed!! There was a time a few years back i had friends and a social life. I lost most of my friends for one reason or another. some moved away some of us drifted apart because i changed and became withdrawn. I have low self esteem which makes me feel like i’m not worth knowing and feel i’ve nothing worth contributing to a conversation. I don’t know what to do to change this. I need help learning how to just talk to people so they’ll WANT to speak to me again. So, anyone out there who’ll take the time to get to know me. i can be a good friend if given the opertunity.
Hi, I’m lonely too and a little depressed!! There was a time a few years back i had friends and a social life. I lost most of my friends for one reason or another. some moved away some of us drifted apart because i changed and became withdrawn. I have low self esteem which makes me feel like i’m not worth knowing and feel i’ve nothing worth contributing to a conversation. I don’t know what to do to change this. I need help learning how to just talk to people so they’ll WANT to speak to me again. So, anyone out there who’ll take the time to get to know me. i can be a good friend if given the opertunity.
