doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
im having probs too i am hated everywere i go i get beat up everyday tell i cough blood i get pranked people throw rocks at my window and i have only had i girlfriend and she had died about 2 years ago
doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
Many of us feel this way, you are not alone.
The way I beat it was by dating someone over the internet. You get to know them a lot, people aren’t as shy over the internet, you can talk on the phone and be shy, girls sometimes think that is cute. I’m sure you could find a really nice girl over the internet. You get to know them before you have to meet them in person, and they help you feel a lot better. Just be yourself with them. Sometimes it wont work out, but it is still worth the try.
Join some social networking sites. that’s the best place to meet them.
Good luck
Are you seriously telling someone who said “I feel like a freak who doesn’t deserve a girlfriend” to go on an online dating site and get into a relationship? I am going to assume you are being sarcastic.
How do you think he can make a relationship work and take care of a woman when he can’t even take care of himself? I don’t know Pagemaster, you seem to be the kind of person who would be good at giving advice. But quite frankly I question almost every piece of advice you put on this thread.
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Im lonely and yet I come from a very big family...im one of 14 children the youngest is 30...I have so many people that I can visit or talk to but thats not what I want or need. I would love to meet my soulmate. Im ready for him. Someone that brings out the best in me. Someone that lifts my spirit by just being. There is so much I can do but nothing brings me joy...Keeping busy does not stop the loneliness. My children make me happy but still there is an emptyness that can only be filled by my soulmate...a lover..a best friend...a confidant..a motivator. Im ready for it. Ive learned a lot from my past experiences and I know what I want. Where is he? I need to be more patient.
my name is Valerie wrote:
Im lonely and yet I come from a very big family...im one of 14 children the youngest is 30...I have so many people that I can visit or talk to but thats not what I want or need. I would love to meet my soulmate. Im ready for him. Someone that brings out the best in me. Someone that lifts my spirit by just being. There is so much I can do but nothing brings me joy...Keeping busy does not stop the loneliness. My children make me happy but still there is an emptyness that can only be filled by my soulmate...a lover..a best friend...a confidant..a motivator. Im ready for it. Ive learned a lot from my past experiences and I know what I want. Where is he? I need to be more patient.
You can’t just wait around for Mr.Right to come to your front door. You have to get out there and talk to some guys. You need to show confidence in yourself as best you can. A guy will like a girl who has confidence in herself. But basically, you got to get out there and try. Because it isn’t coming to you on a silver platter.
my name is Valerie wrote:
Im lonely and yet I come from a very big family...im one of 14 children the youngest is 30...I have so many people that I can visit or talk to but thats not what I want or need. I would love to meet my soulmate. Im ready for him. Someone that brings out the best in me. Someone that lifts my spirit by just being. There is so much I can do but nothing brings me joy...Keeping busy does not stop the loneliness. My children make me happy but still there is an emptyness that can only be filled by my soulmate...a lover..a best friend...a confidant..a motivator. Im ready for it. Ive learned a lot from my past experiences and I know what I want. Where is he? I need to be more patient.
Wait.. Valerie are you dating Josh?
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doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
Many of us feel this way, you are not alone.
The way I beat it was by dating someone over the internet. You get to know them a lot, people aren’t as shy over the internet, you can talk on the phone and be shy, girls sometimes think that is cute. I’m sure you could find a really nice girl over the internet. You get to know them before you have to meet them in person, and they help you feel a lot better. Just be yourself with them. Sometimes it wont work out, but it is still worth the try.
Join some social networking sites. that’s the best place to meet them.
Good luck
Are you seriously telling someone who said “I feel like a freak who doesn’t deserve a girlfriend” to go on an online dating site and get into a relationship? I am going to assume you are being sarcastic.
How do you think he can make a relationship work and take care of a woman when he can’t even take care of himself? I don’t know Pagemaster, you seem to be the kind of person who would be good at giving advice. But quite frankly I question almost every piece of advice you put on this thread.
yep i somewhat agree on that one you should not tell someone to go to start online dating you do know how painful this is pagemaster? dont you! i know it to and i would not recommend it as specially not a long distance internet relationship it is mostly heart ache it can have some good but if you want to be realistic it is not that good at all.
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doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
Many of us feel this way, you are not alone.
The way I beat it was by dating someone over the internet. You get to know them a lot, people aren’t as shy over the internet, you can talk on the phone and be shy, girls sometimes think that is cute. I’m sure you could find a really nice girl over the internet. You get to know them before you have to meet them in person, and they help you feel a lot better. Just be yourself with them. Sometimes it wont work out, but it is still worth the try.
Join some social networking sites. that’s the best place to meet them.
Good luck
Are you seriously telling someone who said “I feel like a freak who doesn’t deserve a girlfriend” to go on an online dating site and get into a relationship? I am going to assume you are being sarcastic.
How do you think he can make a relationship work and take care of a woman when he can’t even take care of himself? I don’t know Pagemaster, you seem to be the kind of person who would be good at giving advice. But quite frankly I question almost every piece of advice you put on this thread.
yep i somewhat agree on that one you should not tell someone to go to start online dating you do know how painful this is pagemaster? dont you! i know it to and i would not recommend it as specially not a long distance internet relationship it is mostly heart ache it can have some good but if you want to be realistic it is not that good at all.
The guy is just really really shy from my understanding, All I was suggesting is getting to know someone first. The easiest way to do that is talking to them online. People aren’t as shy and are more open online, as you can probably tell. If he were to start talking to a girl online, he could get to know her and all that jazz and then maybe when he finally wanted to ask her out or talk to her in real life, he wouldn’t be as shy.
doesnt even matter wrote:
I’m shy and it’s terrible. Every chance I’ve ever had to get a girl friend has been blown by my shyness, and the only girl I’ve gone after on my own initiative already had a boyfriend. The worst part is I feel like a freak who doesn’t even deserve a girlfriend. I can barely hold a conversation with my friends, let alone my future father-in-law. It’s all stupid. I hate how I was born into this. I’m trying to make it along, but I always seem to crash at some point. I just wish I had someone with me to help.
Many of us feel this way, you are not alone.
The way I beat it was by dating someone over the internet. You get to know them a lot, people aren’t as shy over the internet, you can talk on the phone and be shy, girls sometimes think that is cute. I’m sure you could find a really nice girl over the internet. You get to know them before you have to meet them in person, and they help you feel a lot better. Just be yourself with them. Sometimes it wont work out, but it is still worth the try.
Join some social networking sites. that’s the best place to meet them.
Good luck
Are you seriously telling someone who said “I feel like a freak who doesn’t deserve a girlfriend” to go on an online dating site and get into a relationship? I am going to assume you are being sarcastic.
How do you think he can make a relationship work and take care of a woman when he can’t even take care of himself? I don’t know Pagemaster, you seem to be the kind of person who would be good at giving advice. But quite frankly I question almost every piece of advice you put on this thread.
yep i somewhat agree on that one you should not tell someone to go to start online dating you do know how painful this is pagemaster? dont you! i know it to and i would not recommend it as specially not a long distance internet relationship it is mostly heart ache it can have some good but if you want to be realistic it is not that good at all.
The guy is just really really shy from my understanding, All I was suggesting is getting to know someone first. The easiest way to do that is talking to them online. People aren’t as shy and are more open online, as you can probably tell. If he were to start talking to a girl online, he could get to know her and all that jazz and then maybe when he finally wanted to ask her out or talk to her in real life, he wouldn’t be as shy.
That is all I was saying.
You are relating his situation to yours and using personal experience as advice. Unfortunately in this situation you need to view every aspect of what he has stated and try to create a rational piece of advice that will benefit him in the most realistic aspect. Jumping into a relationship no matter how easy, is not the best or even near most realist aspect. He needs to work on self confidence and better himself before he is exposed to deal with anyone else. He is not confident enough in himself and if he was to get into a relationship he would be very clingy and the partner would get tired of this and eventually break it up. He would then be more heart-broken and his idea of “Hes a freak that doesn’t deserve a girlfriend” would be even more significantly impacted and strong.
He needs to do this;
A.) Get couselling
B.) Stretch his boundaries, perhaps try something he is not comftorable with
C.) Find a hobby and pursue it
After he has built enough self confidence in himself then perhaps he is ready to try a relationship out.
The mentallity that he wants to “GET IN” a relationship, is not the least bit healthy. Yes, the feelings of love and being needed is an attribution we all want but we shouldn’t crave it to the point that we NEED it. I never wanted to be in a relationship, I just happened to stumble apon a few ladies who I was interested in. The same applies for here. DON’T RUSH ANYTHING. <- Period.
The one problem I think with you giving advice Pagemaster, is that you think you have enough experience to help people. But you are not at the maturity or actual experience level to be able to give realistic advice without it using “personal experience” to better your opinion.
Has online dating worked for you? I don’t think it has, has it? So why would you recommend someone who is emotionally unstable and not confident to get into a long distance relationship? That almost seems mean.
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I wasn’t meaning that he should jump into a relationship. I was stating that for shy people, it can be easier to make friends and such online. If he wanted to get a girlfriend that badly, he could find one online. I wasn’t being clear, I know that now after re-reading my post.
I have plenty of people to call, but they just won’t do.
Is it just the winter?
I hope so.
You American folk don’t help.
Such a big place, no wonder you’re lonely.
I don’t mean it.
I’m just so malnourished.
I like this font though, so that’s something positive. Looks good when you type (X-Files).
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I have plenty of people to call, but they just won’t do.
Is it just the winter?
I hope so.
You American folk don’t help.
Such a big place, no wonder you’re lonely.
I don’t mean it.
I’m just so malnourished.
I like this font though, so that’s something positive. Looks good when you type (X-Files).
Yeah, it is a large place, and full of not so warm people. Having people to call but having not one of them who will take away your loneliness can be tough. It may just be the winter, but who knows.With the holiday season coming up, having nobody special to share the warmth and fun and giving with can be really hard on one. It’s good to always look on the bright side, like you did with the whole font thing. haha. Keep your head up. I hope you find that one person to take away your loneliness.
I have no friends. I left the group I was with because they were bad influences on me and I haven’t made any new friends since. Life is hard when you have no one to turn to.
im 16 years old, and ive been battling depression and social anxiety problems since i can remember, which isnt too long, because my only escape is smoking pot to numb myself. Ive had it all friends, girlfriends, jobs, money, a car, in a rich little town in MS. I realized a long time ago im never going to be happy, for some people, believe it or not, its just not possible, i have no religion, im atheist, i have no purpose, except living out my little piece of the cruel reality we call life. All the friends ive had would sell me out and turn on me in a second, i trust no one. Ive had friends from every social group, i dont discriminate race, i discriminate against ignorance though, i do not judge people, im disgusted at how shitty people can be toward each other, and if you think im some ugly loser, youve got it wrong, in the least conceded way, people like me and girls do aswell, with all this depression, panic attacks, anxiety, and my views towards life take away any possibility of happiness, if anyone can give any advice, much obliged.
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