chocolate icecream wrote: I posted all this on another forum, so if there’s crap about other members, ignore it. yeah its alot, but most of it is gold. no need to thank me.


Lol. I don’t know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' is the most bullshit thing to do ever. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can’t keep your own emotions in check, hence why you “need” to tell her and get that shit off your mind. Tell a girl how you feel and the response will ALWAYS be “I like you as a friend”.

I don’t need to spill my guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) that I care about them.

Telling someone how you “feel” is bullshit as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. I never tell a girl I like her, as that’s the end of the game. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

I make the girl think I’m not interested, then I am, then I’m not. I play hot and cold, hard to get. I let them wonder about what I am thinking, doing and whether I feel the same way. I don’t make them sad make them feel like they’re 'dying inside' but I let them miss me a bit because then they’ll be more into me.

It’s a fact girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

Telling them how in love you are with them is going to completely ruin that opportunity.
This leads up to a good moment when you can make your move. Why be a chickenshit and tell them how you feel, when you can show them?
You can respect someone, let them know you care about them and not come across like a wussy boy who is DYING INSIDE, aahahahahha. You can actually have fun with girls if you man up.

I don’t get bothered if I feel something for a girl and they don’t know. Who gives a shit if they don’t know? Can’t you deal with your own feelings on your own, why do you need someone else to share that ideal to shut your own self up? And why would telling someone and failing make it any better?
Nope, I don’t need to tell a girl I like her to make myself feel better.
I can show her and do something about it. Something that works.

When you get upset about things like what other people know or feel, then you’re just going to wollow in your sadness and become a little kid.

But like I said, I’m a bit more mature than some members here (believe it or not), especially when it comes to the dating game. So what I’m saying might not work for the little ones.
But when you grow up, you’ll quickly find telling all about your feelings is quickly going to make you a 40 year old virgin


And how many other approaches to picking up a girl have you tried to be able to say that? None? No, I didn’t think so. Like I said, I don’t tell girls I like them to “get” them and neither do any of the people I know who are great with women.
Do you honestly think that guys who go into a club, talk to a girl, go away with the number and get the GIRL calling them back or going on a date with them tell them how much they like/love them to get to that stage?

No, telling them you like them is not going to get a girl attracted to you. Being attractive is going to get a girl attracted to you. And spilling your guts about your wussy lovey dovey feelings is going to do the complete opposite for you.
Once you tell them, you play all your cards. She knows you like her, there’s no longer any doubt about it. She’s not going to be sitting at home, wondering what move you’re going to pull next, whether you like her. There will be no mystery left to you. You are just another one of those guys who decided to say all this crap that gave all your power away.
If people know you want something, they’re going to make sure it’s harder for you to get it. And in people like you, who sound incredibly unexperienced cases, you will NOT get it.

If you bothered to read my post, you would have noticed that I don’t sit around waiting like a “moron” for her to make the first move. Of course I make the first move, I talk to her, make her laugh, have fun with her and get her number. Then I arrange a date, or series of dates. I go out, have a great time. I don’t say “OMG U R TEH PRETTY I LUV U SO MUCH I HAVE 2 LET U KNO”. I keep some things to myself, so it’s more mysterious and fun for her. If I feel I can take it to the next stage, I will simply kiss her or whatever.

Talking to her, getting her number, taking her out.
These all say you are interested in her and like her. And WITHOUT acting like the majority of pussy guys like some in this thread who feel it’s better to just make things awkward by making some stupid ass speech about how much you love the girl in question.

Girls don’t want to know you love them. They want to have fun, why do you think so many don’t go for “nice” guys and go to “jerks”. You my friend, sound like a nice guy. And a nice guy is always just a friend.

Women don’t want to “talk” about YOUR feelings. Women want to be charmed and swept off their feet. Take James Bond. Yes, he’s a fictional character, but there’s a reason why women see him as the perfect guy. Does he ever wear his heart on his sleeve and get fucked by his emotions? Does he ever talk about how in love he is? No.

Women love it when there’s that sexual tention between them and a guy, when they’re unsure of what’s going to happen next and how the guy feels. Ever seen the Little Mermaid or heard girls pick petals off flowers and say “he loves me, he loves me not?". They’re not going to be doing that with you because of your approach.
Girls love it when men are unpredictable and keep them on their toes. Especially the attractive ones. How many guys do you think tell them how pretty they are, or that they’re in love with them? LOTS. And why the hell would they think you saying the same shit is going to make a difference? It won’t. And you’re going to get shot down. Attractive women are desperate for a guy who won’t act this way.

An unpredictable guy won’t make it obvious he likes a woman, which will intrigue her. He’ll make her think one way and then out of nowhere do something else. She’ll think he’s not into her one moment and he’ll kiss her the next. She will wonder if he feels the same way and the curiosity will only make her think more about him. She will MISS him and want to see him next time.

The predictable guy will be nice to a girl, be her best friend, listen to her every demand and do as she says. He will tell her how he feels and she’ll know he wants her. She’ll distance herself from him and know how what he’s thinking and what he wants. He will be put in the same category as all the other 1000 guys who feel the same way about her and told her and she won’t think about him at all. She’ll tell him they’re better off as friends.


The thing to do is be SUBTLE about things.
Women don’t want a nice guy telling them they’re in 'love'. Just because they’re feminine doesn’t mean they won’t think you’re a pussy by saying that.

Women want what they can’t have, but get what they don’t want. They get wussy boys telling them they’re in love, when what they really want is a guy who will shut up and just show them a good time. Not have a nice long chat about emotions and feelings.

You have to be INDIFFERENT and laid back with the whole girl situation.

It’s a different story if you’re already in a proper relationship with a girl to let her now how much you care about her. But if you’re not even going out with the girl and you tell her all this shit, that’s stupid. What are you going to be like when you’re actually kissing and hugging her as a girlfriend? You’re going to be a complete wuss.

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Telling them you like/love them is always the best thing to do. Just do it in a romantic way if you really want to score some brownie points.

Hahaha again.
Say you’re alone with a girl, you’re talking and there’s that connection between you two. You stop talking, look into each other’s eyes and:

*Either go in for the kiss.
*Tell her you love her and you want to marry her and have her babies, listen to what she has to say about it and hope you might get a kiss out of it after.

See the difference between telling her something and showing her something now? There’s always going to be TWO outcomes. A rejection or acception. When going in for the kiss, there’s going to be the excitment and tention, her heart will be beating like a jackhammer and it will feel 'magic'.
Tell her all your bullshit and you will totally ruin the moment. She’ll have to find the right words to say back to you, she’ll know what’s coming next. You just ruined something that could have been much better.

You need to have a cocky and funny attitude which keeps them into you. You need to keep some things to yourself. You keep saying it’s best to tell them so they know you care and you’re not afraid to love them.

If you’re not “afraid” to love her, ask her out on a date. Try to kiss her.
And why do you want her to know you “care” so much? She really doesn’t care what you care about. By telling her you “love” her, you’re just telling her she’s pushing your love buttons and you want to be intimate with her. You’re not telling her you care about her well-being, her happiness, her future. You can do that as a friend. You want to be her boyfriend. You are talking about YOURSELF so keep it to yourself. She does NOT need to know that shit as it will not affect her in anyway.

You care about them enough to let them know? You’re not doing her a favour or adding anything to her life by telling her. You’re only making yourself look like a dumbass.

Actually DOING something about it like taking her on a date or kissing her, even holding her hand and making jokes about your relationship is MUCH better than this. Actually flirting with a girl and being fun instead of direct, firm and serious is the way to go.

How the hell do you show them WITHOUT telling them at the same time?

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Sooo... what you’re saying is not tell them how you feel but show them? How the hell do you show them WITHOUT telling them at the same time?

That’s the thing. By showing them, you are getting the message across in a SUBTLE way. Holding their hand, making eye contact, joking about your relationship and how into you she is, taking her out and sometimes complimenting her and even KISSING her tells a girl you like her. You’re acting on what you feel, which is a sign of a confident man. And confidence is the MAIN thing a woman likes in a man.

Telling them over msn, phone or face to face about your feelings is not getting you anywhere. You’ll make your 'secrets' known which may make you feel better and in your wuss world you may think it benefits the girl in some kind of weird way. Don’t make a big deal out of it and make her think over it and all that. Act on your instincts and she will too. Try to analyse the situation too much and she will be put off.

“Did you ever notice you can’t get a girl if you don’t tell them you like them?". If you take your own way, your own path and don’t listen to other people’s advice then you cannot say what approaches and methods can do something and which ones can’t. You are 14 years old, you have little to no experience with girls. I have, and I know what I’m talking about.

I can understand that what I’m saying is hard to swallow for some people, especially the nice, young guys who have been raised to think being nice, generous and all that will get you a girl. It may sound alien and different to you, but I’m telling it how it is. You’ve got a lot to learn about a lot, so your own “path” is a quite literally bullshit. Just because it’s your ideal, it’s you, doesn’t mean it’s right or it’s going to work. Your “path” as you call it is nowhere near as refined or developed as mine, so dismissing it for this reason is pretty dumb. I’ve failed a lot and learnt from that and you most likely will do the same. And when you do, you will come to the exact same place as I am and realise your values and ideals were immature, inexperienced nothings.

I may be a “guy on a gaming forum”, but outside this forum I have a life and experience, believe it or not. It’s a gaming forum, sure, but that’s a pathetic excuse you have for not heeding the words of another person, or even learning from them. Answers, techniques and everything that is right isn’t going to just develop itself in your mind and become of who you are. You’re a kid, the only thing you have going for you IS to learn. And most of it you won’t be able to do on your own.

You don’t listen to guys on a gaming forum?
Then why are you posting your opinions/advice or whatever? Why should anyone listen to you? Why are you posting what you are going to do with this girl? It’s a pretty egotistical thing to say, in my opinion. You, yourself are just one of these guys on a gaming forum. If you’re not prepared to listen to us, why should we listen to you? Double standards, don’t you think?

Basically, what you said is even if this stuff works, it doesn’t matter as what you know and think is right is canon and nothing will change that? Pfft, ignorance is bliss, I guess

What I’m saying wasn’t developed by me. I’ve learnt it from many other guys, I’ve read books, watched DVDs. My friends have shown me videos from seminars from guys who make MILLIONS out of giving this advice and have proof it works. They have proof that your approach doesn’t work. There are testimonials, countless guys who have nothing but praise for this kind of stuff and nothing but dissapointment that they thought what you know HAS to be right.

I’ve gone out and seen what works and what doesn’t. I’ve experienced it. I wasn’t afraid to learn from other people, as EVERYONE has some kind of wisdom that you can learn from. Whether it be a man, a woman or a “guy on a gaming forum”.

And if you can’t accept that kind of knowledge and you stick to your own, 4 years of (in)experience, be my guest. That’s your beef and it’s incredibly unfortunate for you.

So once you grow up and try it, prove me otherwise, then you can properly disagree with me. Until then, you can’t really say much other than it’s not your kind of thing and it’s bullshit

But like I keep saying, you’re a kiddie. Girls and guys your age usually have no idea what being in a real relationship is all about. It’s usually just a title to brag about. I don’t think young people are capable of knowing what love is truly about or relationships. They’re not mature enough, which is why I can understand why you think talking through everything is the best course of action. My cousin is your age, and I find it hilarious when she talks about relationships and guys. Girls, at that age just get into this kind of thing for social reasons, rather than their own. If a guy tells a girl they like them, the girl will probably be stupid enough to say “ok, I like you, let’s be bf and gf lol” and then that’s it.

But that’s just the majority I have come across, so don’t call me out on that. You’re an individual, you might be different.

I’ve been in your shoes, and I’ve grown out of them.
It might be asking too much for me to try and get you to walk in the ones I have now.

The thing is, you need to act in a certain way in order to either cause attraction in a girl, or affection. Affection is when you just act like a friend, you’re sort of submissive. You know what I mean, we’ve all been there. The girl who we like, but is our friend and we don’t want to admit anything. That’s going to cause affection, and she might agree to “going out” with you based on that... but it won’t last, usually.

Then there’s attraction, where you act cocky and funny. You tease her, have fun with her. You just act like she’s one of your guy friends (sort of). You act indifferent around her, accuse her of trying to ruin your friendship by making a move on you (you say this in a playful way).

One of my friends is a girl, and I licked her face by accident the other day (don’t ask, lol). If I was trying to be affectionate with her I would have said I’m sorry and all that crap and acted like I was really ashamed. But I was busting her balls saying she loved it and I’m not going to do it again no matter how much she begged.
That sort of attitude will have the girls all over you. Not the apologetic, submissive, chicken boy.

Most people act like the chicken boy, they don’t cause a girl to feel attracted to them. Then you start to feel all this pent up “love” and you need to get it off your chest by telling the girl. I don’t care what some guys have said, when you tell a girl you like her, you’re not doing it to show how much you care about them. Stop making it sound like you’re doing them some sort of service, because believe me; she is not sitting at home crying herself to sleep about what you’re thinking. She’s getting on with her life and it’s sad that you can’t do the same.

When you act a bit arrogant and funny (both together), then it will be the other way around. You’ll have fun with her and everything will fall into place. You won’t need to tell her anything as everything will just happen. Just keep having fun, realise you don’t NEED to tell her anything or be in a relationship. JUST. STOP. CARING. Be INDIFFERENT. Realise you are great, you are awesome and any girl would be lucky to have you in that way. Keep telling yourself that and BELIEVE IT. I don’t care how overweight, ugly or how bad you think of yourself. You have the potential to be awesome with girls, so BELIEVE that shit.

Briemann was saying his dad isn’t the best looking guy, and he gets all the hottest milfs. I don’t think he’s joking. Believe me, looks have very little to do with what a girl wants. Make the most out of what you got and just be funny and cocky. Act like you’re the best thing since sliced bread. Believe you’re the best thing since sliced bread- and YOU will be the best thing since sliced bread. Once you believe it, other people will HAVE to do the same.

Have you had a girl you’re not interested in, but friends with tell you they like you? And you blow them off? And wonder why it’s always the girls you don’t like that like you and never the ones you do like that feel the same?

Well it’s the same thing for the girls you tell all that bullshit to.

With these girls you don’t act like you need their approval. You’re not really afraid of making an ass our yourself or anything like that. You don’t give them special treatment because they look pretty. Do the same around girls you like. Realise that there are lots of girls out there, and the one you’re interested in isn’t really “the one”. Probably.

If it helps, act like she’s already into you. And if you have that frame in mind, then it’ll slowly start to happen for real.


Like I said, most of its true for every guy. but if you dont wanna trust me thats okay.

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Yor best friend wrote: Ok here’s the situation:

There’s this girl at school that I simply don’t know when I fell in love with her, but I don’t know if she likes me because we have a really good “friendship” but sometimes I feel that she....she....she...I don’t know, well the thing is that I’m kind of shy and if tell her my feelings and she donesn’t feel the same thing for me I don’t think I’ll be able to talk to her again.

Another thing that I noticed is that she tells me evrything and I’m like her best friend(guy)
and the thing is that I don’t know if she’s giving some signs like last tuesday when we were in 1st period, our computer teacher was going to move me because there’s suppost to be 4 students per table and like I was saying the teacher was going to move me but then like she asked the teacher not to move me and then she said to move another guy who’s also her friend and then later on the class she told me “My name: you make my day” and I felt like Ok and everyday that goes by I feel that she feels something for me but I’m not sure.

P.S.
I need to know if she likes me and also, I need some tips from girls to make her fall in love with me.

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