Ive been with my bf now for 2 years and 4 months. We never argue about anything and our relationship has been perfect the whole time. Only time we have argued has been when we have both been drunk.
1 night we got very drunk (too drunk) and was walking home when he basically beat me up. Hes never ever done anything like this before. Hes recently moved and been stressed out. Think everything just built up and we was agueing t the time.
Someone called police but i didnt press charges in the end.
Hes said how sorry he is and i know that he is.
Apart from this the relationship has been perfect and we love each other so much. But i dont think i could be with someone whos done that to me. i.e black eye and bruises on face ect...
The way I look at it, when it has alchohol in it, things like this are expected.
I’m as dumb as hell when it comes to this, so I’m just guessing, but you should probably try to talk to him, council him if at all possible.
Like I said with this I’m as dumb as a doorknob but it’s just how I see it, when you get alchohol you sometimes get pessimists, angry ones at that, and things just break.
It seems though that like you said it was just things that were happening, the moving, stress, the overdose of alchohol, it’s just ingredients for something to go wrong.
But either way I’m flipping fourteen, what would I know about this...
I would have to agree with Aaron. If the arguing is ongoing when you’re drunk - don’t drink so much!
I would say if this is the first time he’s done this then he *probably* isn’t abusive. But being drunk is no excuse for physical violence. If it ever happens again, leave him.
Also when you say “beat you up” - how bad was it? Were you in fear for your life at any point? If so leave him now.
At any rate you need to speak with him. Tell him you understand he’s sorry he hurt you, but that you both need to take steps to ensure this will never happen again (mainly that he has to also cut back on the drinking). If he won’t agree - again leave him.
ha thas stoopid! u were both drunk! ahahahaha!!!
man i dont drink alc not even soda. seriously. i dont even drink gatorade. seriously.
u should quit drinkin alc and stick ta water.
bahaha-its me wrote:
ha thas stoopid! u were both drunk! ahahahaha!!!
man i dont drink alc not even soda. seriously. i dont even drink gatorade. seriously.
u should quit drinkin alc and stick ta water.
bahaha-its me wrote:
ha thas stoopid! u were both drunk! ahahahaha!!!
man i dont drink alc not even soda. seriously. i dont even drink gatorade. seriously.
u should quit drinkin alc and stick ta water.
Umm - are you even old enough to drink alcohol?
Doubtful, but he does have a bit of a point as well, the alchohol can play a bit of a factor with his attitude...it could be a contributing factor to things, not saying to drop it completly just ease it a bit perhaps...if it is an evident problem perhaps...as my father says, “Instant asshole, just add alchohol”...I don’t know...
bahaha-its me wrote:
ha thas stoopid! u were both drunk! ahahahaha!!!
man i dont drink alc not even soda. seriously. i dont even drink gatorade. seriously.
u should quit drinkin alc and stick ta water.
Umm - are you even old enough to drink alcohol?
Doubtful, but he does have a bit of a point as well, the alchohol can play a bit of a factor with his attitude...it could be a contributing factor to things, not saying to drop it completly just ease it a bit perhaps...if it is an evident problem perhaps...as my father says, “Instant asshole, just add alchohol”...I don’t know...
hahaha. sweeet sayin. i should quote. but some other time . i got too much sigs
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Life is too short to be beaten at any time, never mind when you are drunk. Your BF should seek counciling as soon as possible because next time, he could hit you and he could in theory kill you, yes it sounds hard, but my sister married a man in a relationship much the same as your own, until one night, he was so drunk, he hit so hard, it killed her.
I am sorry if I have offened anyone out there, but I am just worried about Christine, take care, and make sure next time you go out with you BF for a drink, ensure you tell a friend, so that if anything does happen, they can help you or the police.
My own sister died through a alcoholic, I do not want the thoughts of it happening to some one again.
TOT123 I am very sorry to hear about ur sister. Is terrible. Of course I dont wanna end up like that! Ive been trying to get peoples opinion but im still at a loss of what to do.
My mum and dad had a bad relationship (they r still together) but when i was younger my dad used to hit my mum. I swore to myself Id never be in that position. Cant believe this has happened. As I said things have been perfect and hes my perfect guy. But i just dont think it could ever be the same. The line has been crossed I spos.
Its just so hard to move on, cant imagain not being with him! I got lots of friends and they r helping me though, just so hard to think we’re not together.
Life, whys it so complicated?!?!
Its ok cutting down on alcohol but im always gonna have this at the back of my mind, like anger held. I hate my dad and got enough anger held from him. Its like im always gonna feel like I wanna get him back for what hes done and thst gotta be unhealthy!!
I can’t believe what some of you people are saying!
I would NEVER hit a female, no matter how drunk I may be, that is NO excuse.
Christine,
So you’re saying your perfect guy is someone that hits on women?
Seriously, what a loser, someone should beat on him. As Google_Queen said, chances are he will do it again. Once is too much, you should leave him. Simple as. And as TOT123 said, he should get help.
Actions speak louder then words. The word sorry is always used for someone who has nothing better to say or fall back on, and because you have feelings for him you are going to hold yourself back by thinking ‘well he was drunk when he did it…or well he said sorry’
sorry does not cut it, either does the abuse of alcohol. Dude a reality check, he hit you! He gave you a black eye, sorry to say it but that is not love. Look past the feeling that your heart gives out and use your brain on this one, even though its extremely hard to let go of something that you’ve grown to love its not worth it. They say that every woman will get the life she has dreamed about or wanted…is abuse something you want? I think not. Think about your future and what’s to become, alcohol expresses who a person really is. You deserve the best and will get the best, your decisions and choices now will define the life you choose, so make it right. And actually…you already know deep down what you need to do.
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Is terrible. Of course I dont wanna end up like that! Ive been trying to get peoples opinion but im still at a loss of what to do.
