| 05 Jul 2008 02:16 pm |
UBER 1337 Poster Rep: 97  Joined: 10 May 2008 Posts: 2,612 OFFLINE | omg the lonly is so lonly lol
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| 05 Jul 2008 04:04 pm |
TheRichMan Guest | LONELY!
All my life! Sound familiar?
This is just one man’s experience whose life is about two-thirds over.
If your a young man in your twenty’s, listen to this.
If your not, listen to this anyway you may know someone like this.
If not either of these, listen to this anyway. There may me some guy good at disguising himself.
You can dress great, look great, go to the gym, get a job, make a lot of money, make more money and try to stay ahead of the competition. With all this you may attract a woman who is interested in you. In other words, it gets you “in the door”. Her love and admiration for you makes you feel “complete” . You like the way it feels to have her love you and be wanted.
When I was 30, a workout buddy said something that has stayed with me all of my life. He said, “What if you become disabled or are in a bad accident”. “You lose your job and money which kept you ahead of the competition”. Your body starts to atrophy. “The fancy car you had when you met the girl of your dreams is gone”! You begin to lose the things that made you attractive... No money, no job success.
If she stays, you have a keeper. She loves you for who you are. Not, for all the things you achieved in life.
A woman can make or break a man. Its just that simple.
My point;.. make sure when you are young and growing up that you have developed some self-esteem, and feel O.K. about yourself. All of the money in the world, and your accomplishments will not help you if before you aquired this great success and wealth, you felt empty.
No amount of money, success, good looks, fitness, will ever cure LONLINESS. You’ll still be lonely!
Its worthwhile to strive for greatness. Just dont make it your goal.
You must have people in your life, and dont get me wrong, the uncoditional love of your family helps a lot.
Put relationships first.
When you find the love of your life, you had better go for it. Many people in life end up alone and afraid, if they don’t put the right people in their life and cultivate the love for each other.
For a man, your marriage, family, and your health should be your main concerns. The rest will take care of itself.
Caring for your family will keep you motivated, and that comes first. It counts the most.
So, if your young and lonely, remember this.
People first. Help people, never ask yourself, “whats in it for me”. When you only think of yourself, it is almost certain that you will fail. Be someone’s friend, and placing importance on them will make you feel important.
Nothing is more important than having just that one special person.
Money isnt bad... Its the love of money that will kill you.
Now, guys, go out and find her!
*this is only one man’s opinion. Its how I feel, It may not describe some of your feelings*
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| 05 Jul 2008 05:55 pm |
blaaaaah Guest | i googled “why am i so lonely”
god this is sucky
anyway, hmm, lets see, my wkend is NOT going as planned, i took my best friends for granted so now i barely speak to them, theres sum frstration between me and a friend slash annoying SOAB, and a friend from ages ago is simply a one sided square waste of time, among other loneliness onducing problems with friends.
sigh
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| 06 Jul 2008 12:30 am |
akasnakessssss Guest | im 15 form hanford ca 559
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| 06 Jul 2008 03:59 am |
Anari Guest | I’m a google search finder too. Only, I probably took a bit longer to get here, as I only typed in “lonely”. First I got a bunch of book reviews, travel guides, and articles on Japanese robots.
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| 06 Jul 2008 10:38 am |
UBER 1337 Poster Rep: 25 Joined: 12 Jun 2008 Posts: 2,122 OFFLINE | IM going to be lonley for the lonley for the rest of my life wish i could be happy but it looks like ile never be and now she wont even talk to me
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| 06 Jul 2008 02:47 pm |
chocomuffn Guest | Hi
TheRichMan,
I have paused and backspaced several times before starting this note to you. I wanted to suggest the zillions of things that have been suggested to me... change your environment, go somewhere u never went before, try something new to break up the monotony of your everyday routine.. thats the way to attract new people! (they say) Id suggest u go to Jamaica where being white/foreign/earning currency that is more potent than the Jamaican dollar... is an attractive quality that u may still possess!! but the truth is that this desperate clinging at that single straw of rational thinking all seems pathetic to me. If you are anything like me, you have tried all this and failed miserably, you have been there and the people u met just didnt click with you or find u as interesting as u found them. There life was already in motion and the time u spent with them was merely the time they looked up from a newspaper or stopped to tye there shoe laces.
What I will say is that im glad despite everything and your feelings of fading, your still here... for selfish reasons of course... your honesty and reaching out really resonated with me. Its not often that I see that men have feelings that are anything like the things that shadow my own. Thanks for that and despite everything, hope!
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| 06 Jul 2008 08:06 pm |
Pratap Guest | I recently moved to US and am feeling so lonely no friends, no family. To top is all my accent is also different and feel shy to approach people because of it. I feel so depressed dont know what to do. anyone got any ideas about what to do
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| 06 Jul 2008 11:06 pm |
donzi Guest | I broke up with my boyfriends of 2 years when and got drunk and almost went home with a guy. I live with my parents and have no life out side of work it sucks bad! I hate my life and wish i had something to live for i think love is the answer but they does not seem to be real in this world everyone is evil the only guys that are brave enough to ask me out already have a lady.
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| 06 Jul 2008 11:10 pm |
donzi Guest | donzijones777@yahoo.com talk to me if you want
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| 06 Jul 2008 11:56 pm |
TheRichMan Guest | chocomuffn wrote:
Hi
TheRichMan,
I have paused and backspaced several times before starting this note to you. I wanted to suggest the zillions of things that have been suggested to me... change your environment, go somewhere u never went before, try something new to break up the monotony of your everyday routine.. thats the way to attract new people! (they say) Id suggest u go to Jamaica where being white/foreign/earning currency that is more potent than the Jamaican dollar... is an attractive quality that u may still possess!! but the truth is that this desperate clinging at that single straw of rational thinking all seems pathetic to me. If you are anything like me, you have tried all this and failed miserably, you have been there and the people u met just didnt click with you or find u as interesting as u found them. There life was already in motion and the time u spent with them was merely the time they looked up from a newspaper or stopped to tye there shoe laces.
What I will say is that im glad despite everything and your feelings of fading, your still here... for selfish reasons of course... your honesty and reaching out really resonated with me. Its not often that I see that men have feelings that are anything like the things that shadow my own. Thanks for that and despite everything, hope!
Thanks Chocomuffn;
I appreciate your reply. If I can say one more thing about our subject it is... Guys are all different. They have a subliminal agenda. Many are not in touch with their feelings. They are in denial. They disguise their weakness. We all have a “game” plan. Some guys play the “game” better than others. It is our unconcience competitive nature. Like a Poker Face. Guys have a fear of being “found out” . They are unaware of this so therefore live in a vaneer. As I said its our “game plan”, and we all play it differently.
We even have an unwritten “mancode” which is not easy to decypher. Just remember this.. “What you do speaks so loudly, I can hardly hear what your saying”. Remember, most of us will never admit it. Its how we are built!
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| 07 Jul 2008 09:24 am |
rich but lonely Guest | There are always people who feel like you... i dont even know why I typed these words in google. I guess its become second habbit to google every querry, every fear....
I sometimes dont understand why I feel so lonely even when i am with my family and friends. I guess no one understands the real me. I am rich, educated and young....no reason why I should be so sad. I guess this is my curse from previous lives.........
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| 07 Jul 2008 10:19 am |
kang cho long Guest | I am lonely too...
Is anybody there? ...
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| 08 Jul 2008 01:23 am |
chocomuffn Guest | Im here Kang cho long... Im in this room echoing you and and there is only darkness around me...where are u? what continent ?
To my new confidant TheRichMan :-
“What you do speaks so loudly, I can hardly hear what your saying”
this has got to be the most singly important thing a guy has ever said to me... that the the fact that men get bored with predictability while women view that constant as security.
my biggest problem might be that i respond to a man the same way i respond to women... being brought up in a girls school with a gap between myself and brothers... i think i try to love men and offer them a sence of confidence and security that is all good and well for starters but gets old fast.
Coupling this thought with yours...i fell lik i must be shouting with my actions all the time... my “love” must be so deafening and overwhelming that its overbearing and intimidating. is this possible? Elizabeth Barrett Browning once said “I love too true to keep a friend”
and to the contrary mens actions seem to speak volumes in direct opposition to there words. the men that say they are interested act disinterested and the ones that act as if they are avoid me!!.... its so confusing to me i end up shouting with my own actions and chourusing with my words!!
sh** im worse than i could ever imagine... how does one undo o lifetime of “prefection”... because despite its undesirableness... this thing about me is something i have honed and perfected.
hmmmph.... I hate games... i was never any good at them...
so in your life did u have children? have they abandoned you? I always thought that was my one hope of not being alone.
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| 08 Jul 2008 02:19 am |
xAzraelx Guest | I also typed “I am lonely." <_<
I just graduated highschool a month ago, and am off to college in the fall. I know what most people would inevitably think upon hearing this: “kid’s got his whole life ahead of him, what’s he whining about?"
I guess I really have no excuse, my life’s perfectly fine, not nearly as bad as what a lot of people have to face every day. It’s just, despite things we’ve said, my friends and I are invariably and inescapably drifting apart, and despite my efforts I can’t seem to do anything about it. On top of that, about a week before I graduated my girlfriend of two years and I split.
It seems like all I do is sit and play video games and go to work at a movie theater.
Damn I’m lonely. =/
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| 08 Jul 2008 03:43 am |
Lonely Angel Guest | At least you got a job, Azrael. I’ve been unemployed for more than a year, living with family and interview after interview, nothing happens. I don’t see my friends, they don’t even call, which I begin to think they’re not really friends at all. Its as if I don’t exist.
I guess I can say I’ve been lonely for 20 years, since I was 8 years old. Sure, I have my family, handful of them only, but one needs human interaction. But I’m beginning to think I was always meant to be alone.
Got no job, no girlfriend, no friends. A lonely angel. So lonely. So very, very alone. Lonely then and lonelier now.
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| 08 Jul 2008 05:55 am |
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| 08 Jul 2008 06:40 am |
Wannabe Rep: 0  Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Posts: 57 OFFLINE | why should i post here i see no incentive or benefit
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| 08 Jul 2008 06:43 am |
links4 Guest | dpn’t know why but can you add links3 as a friend it’s me i gotbanned until sat!!
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| 08 Jul 2008 07:49 am |
what? what? Rep: 38 Joined: 13 Jun 2006 Posts: 12,278 OFFLINE | wish i could sleep this day away,,and the next and so on
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