| 15 Dec 2004 08:34 am |
shadedangel Guest | To Saturnine,
Dear if you are as you say; kind, compassionate and so on...then you must realise that some people do give a damn...I mean you care and as long as you care that is one person...even if it is out of a million...you are one person who cares and that is saying alot. Don’t lose faith in people...it is not so much that they don’t care as it is they care too much about things you can’t see. Like their lives, their problems, their own loneliness. Sometimes it is hard to look out your window and see the rain when you are faceing a mirror. Give a little and you will get a litte...and even if it is a very very little...a little is better than none.
*The days grow dim the days grow dark and i cannot see my way. I am blind...until...I realise that I, alone, am the light that I seek*
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| 15 Dec 2004 03:23 pm |
simeyb Guest | I have just found this message board and think its the most amazing thing I have seen for a long time.Its great that all these people who are feeling low and had thought that they were the only ones can now see that so many others share their feelings. Its very comforting. A place where we can say how we REALLY feel instead of putting on the big act we are forced to in “normal” life. I am a former depressive who seeked help through medication and counselling. What I learnt through my few years of troubles is that talking and sharing your feelings is essential.
We all need someone to make us feel special and loved and we don’t all have that someone. I personally got engaged at xmas last year and left in February so this xmas is gonna be hard for me. I do feel really lonely - all my friends are attached and I feel like I havent much to offer anyone anyway. But you gotta stay hopeful. I hope and I pray that I’ll meet someone else again soon. I have gone through the suffering, now I’m ready to be happy again. It only takes a few bits of good luck and circumstances to alter slightly and life will seem brighter again.
I offer my heartfelt good wishes to everyone who is feeling down and lonely at the moment...but lets all at least try and believe that it is just for the moment. Things change everyday and it may only be a few weeks before someting great happens to us. And if it does lets come back on this site and tell the others so that everyone can feel hopefull it will happen to them too. Human kindness is one of the most powerful things in life and if you can show that to others then I truely belive you will be rewarded.
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| 15 Dec 2004 05:11 pm |
SKSkillz Guest | I feel the same way as “Saturnine” at times, that I’m a caring, nice, compassionate person, but people ignore me anyway. It could be something I’m doing that is scaring people off, but I have no clue what it is. People just don’t seem to care enough about me to start or keep a conversation, and I’m generally the “if no one else is there” guy....meaning “if no one else is there”, then people talk to me.
I’m shy, quiet, and generally very introverted in public, so it’s very hard for me to meet new people, in that I’m not particularly good at generating conversation. I do have some friends, but 1) I wouldn’t consider them “close”, and 2) they went away to college and never bothered to call me at any point. This summer, I worked with a firm that my mom happened to work in as well, and I found that my mom was very popular within the company, but I was generally ignored by everyone but my direct boss and about 2 other people. My mom told me that she was also very introverted as a child, and that some people may perceive a quiet and shy demeanor as egotistical, which I found completely dumbfounding. That could be it, but I find that hard to believe.
I just turned 21 recently, and I feel that I’ve wasted all those years of my life, and see very little upside from here on out. Of course, if the right woman or right job comes along, it could bring some meaning to life, but not too many women (right or wrong) generally care about me, and I just don’t seem to ever catch any breaks.
I guess in some way it eases the pain to see others are in the same boat, but that doesn’t make everything better. This is my 2nd or 3rd time posting on this thread, so things obviously haven’t improved. Oh well.
Hope everyone has a nice holiday season.
- SKSkillz
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| 15 Dec 2004 10:05 pm |
invisible Guest | i am very lonely. i’m married and have 3 kids, all still at home. I don’t work because of small child. I feel invisible. Alone. unwanted. ignored.
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| 15 Dec 2004 10:33 pm |
oleg Guest | Hi everybody,
I’m lonely too. And tonight I feel extremely bad about this. No girlfriend, no friends. No one really close. My folks are thousand miles away, and I’m here in Germany studying in Berlin. It’s been 3 months since I’ve come here but still there’s nobody I can call a friend here. My coursemates are nice people but I feel myself kind of ignored. And they mostly speak German to each other while I’m hardly able to say anything except yes or hello. Of course they speak English to me, but damn I wish I could speak German! I’m an introvert person and it’s never been easy to make friends for me. And now there’s yet another obstacle.
I’m glad I’ve found this thread. Like many others I’ve just typed 'i am lonely' in Google. It feels better when you know that you are not alone in your loneliness.
Happy holidays,
Oleg
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| 16 Dec 2004 05:32 pm |
sm Guest | 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15... pages of “i am lonely” and i thought i was the only weirdo typing randomly on google...
Life sucks right now and i don’t see any change in the near future... have a lonely day fellow loners.
Peace,
sM
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| 16 Dec 2004 11:45 pm |
guest Guest | I typed “I have no friends” hoping to find some sort of thing just like this, so here I am – joining the lonely bunch after 15 pages…
My problem is that I feel like I honestly have no friends. I’ve been engaged for a year, to my boyfriend of 7 years, but lately all we seem to do is bicker, and I don’t have any girlfriends to vent to. I thought I did, but I email them, and I don’t hear back for months. Then I email again, and now I think I must be irritating them because I’m needy.
It’s just so hard to make new friends! I’m in college right now, and my classmates are 5 years younger than me – and if I’m out of touch with people my own age (24), no wonder that I can’t seem to ‘mesh’ with anyone in class… And at my summer job I worked with 3 men over the age of 40. Not really the mixings for lifelong friendships there…
Oh yeah, and I live at home. I have two cats, one of them only puts up with my because I feed her, and the other is 16 years old and on death’s door, and it breaks my heart to see her. Sorry, getting off topic.
Can anyone suggest how to make friends? I’m not really into the going out and drinking/drugging scene. I like to stay in and talk and watch movies and eat popcorn.
I really should get a therapist to talk to so I don’t have to be so desperately needy. Anyone else out there in therapy? How do you go about starting? And how much does it cost?
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| 17 Dec 2004 03:30 am |
alexconway Guest | wow, 15 pages of lonely people. i typed it into google. im lonely also. but what makes me worth of notice when 15 pages of ppl are also lonly. :-(
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| 18 Dec 2004 12:05 am |
bobo Guest | I typed “i am lonely” into google as well - because I am and I was curious what would come back. Sad state of affairs.. I think our society has bred lonliness and uses it as a method of marketing. Buy my product and you will fill that void in your life.. what a lie.
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| 18 Dec 2004 11:11 pm |
candy Guest | Did a random search on google like most people. Didn’t think other people typed random things into google. Don’t know why but I find I’m lonely. I mean I’m about to get engaged to a wonderful guy. I live with my family. I have two cats. I go to university where I meet all sorts of new people.
I still feel like I’m lacking something. I mean my bf has his friends which piss me off at times. And well I feel like I never belong at school. People and their groups....they can be so rude.
Saw a councellor a couple times. He said people who treat you negatively are just trying to make themselves feel better. Their life may suck and their just doing what they can to feel in control. Things may not be going how they want them to be going and they may not realize they’re treating you like absolute crap. I thought of that and I’m wondering how many of us treat someone a certain way that pushes them away when we really want them near.
Anyway....I’m lonely because I feel I lack friends. My bf goes out and has fun and I don’t have anything to do lately. I think I’m too dependent on him. I guess it’s hard to do but the best thing may be to just get out...do something I love. Connect with people in person. Even helping others out may help.
Another thing...sometimes it’s easy to get into feeling all crappy and it’s the hardest thing to get back out of.
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| 19 Dec 2004 10:09 am |
Pisces Guest | When i was a lot younger, being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. But as you add years in life, being alone brings new meaning. I tried the net to find someone who can complete my life, or find someone who wants to have a full life. I’ve been lied at, cheated and hurt. It was stupid to find love on the net, but deep inside, even though i was hurt, i still believe that i will find that someone special with whom i can share my life and dreams with. Being lonely doesn’t have to be miserable. But no matter how much we try to elude loneliness, it will always be there-taking its own shape and form. I am glad to have seen this thread. I know that i am not the only lonely person in the world, in fact, there are millions of lonely people in all corners of the globe hoping to find their own meaning of happiness. I hope to find mine, and i hope all you guys will be fortunate to find your happiness too. For the meantime, let us count our blessings while we can.
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| 19 Dec 2004 06:28 pm |
imsuchaloser Guest | 
im lonely once again.
i find someone who feels the same way and totally no ones here.
:'(
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| 20 Dec 2004 12:10 am |
dispensable Guest | Candy: Wow - I couldn’t have said it better myself - I mean, you put into words exactly how I feel. And I agree, it’s so easy to fall into that downward spiral, but so hard to get out.
It seems like I can check off my un-ending list of things I hate about myself and my life when I’m down in that pit...
And I’m in the same boat with my recent fiance who has tons of friends and can call any of them up at the drop of a hat to go out and play basketball with... whereas I have no friends. I’m still desperately clinging to the close friendships I had in highschool, but now those friends are all over the country, and far from me, and they all seem to have NO trouble meeting people and making new friends as I slowly slip from their list of friends. And it hurts.
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| 21 Dec 2004 12:47 am |
Guy with a tricky name Guest | Guys, don’t feel so lonely. Right now I’m one of 9 people on my college campus, because I’m an international student and I didn’t have money to go back home for the holidays. And I am the only person in my dorm, which is kinda big. The problem with me is not that I don’t have friends - I have quite a few - but they are all away right now. And besides, I don’t really have someone to love, which makes all the things that I do seem pointless. Anyway, I never show people I feel awful and try to help myself. I’ve gotten out of a few crises that way. But it’s tiring. I finally understood I feel so much better with people around, and I didn’t use to think that way. This is getting too long, so - there is always something positive in your lives. The trick is to find it and hold on to it. That’s what I do to stay alive. Best of luck and happy holidays!
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| 21 Dec 2004 12:54 am |
Guy with a tricky name Guest | Guys, don’t feel so lonely. Right now I’m one of 9 people on my college campus, because I’m an international student and I didn’t have money to go back home for the holidays. And I am the only person in my dorm, which is kinda big. The problem with me is not that I don’t have friends - I have quite a few - but they are all away right now. And besides, I don’t really have someone to love, which makes all the things that I do seem pointless. Anyway, I never show people I feel awful and I try to help myself. I’ve gotten out of a few crises that way. But it’s tiring. I finally understood I feel so much better with people around, and I didn’t use to think that way. This is getting too long, so: there is always something positive in your lives. The trick is to find it and hold on to it. That’s what I do to stay alive. Best of luck and happy holidays!
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| 23 Dec 2004 09:45 pm |
eeriebagel Guest | thank you for that very uplifting comment, “guy with tricky name”. i too came here because i was lonely, and decided to type that into google, and im glad i had your story to read. 
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| 24 Dec 2004 02:17 am |
quietgirl Guest | I love this thread. All the people on here speak so much truth. Loneliness is such a tough feeling...it eats at you from the inside of your soul. I have friends, but I hardly see them anymore, and most of them I’m not really close with. I notice, whenever I do tend to get very close with a friend, somehow I get bitten in the ass by something that goes down, and somehow the friendship becomes lessened in some way. Also this summer I ran into an old flame from college and we had the most wild, amazing time together, and I fell in love with him, but it was not mutual. He mainly wanted to use me for my resources (car) and for a “friendship”..but he was never a friend to me. I still feel like i’m holding a candle for this guy, even though he’s told me a million times what he really thinks and doesn’t want anything to do with me. Its sad actually. But I remember all the good times and reminisce often about it. I haven’t had many relationships at all (at 24) and he was my first. I’m hooked on him, but lonely now cause I know it will never come to mean anything. Lately I just don’t feel like trying, and wanting to crawl into a hole and not come out. I just get tired of trying, and tired of hoping. But we all press on. I recently started a new job, and I take classes in the evening so i stay busy. but i hope like someone else said on this board earlier that things do get better soon. having confidence, self esteem and faith helps, so let’s make that part of our new years resolutions! have wonderful holidays, everyone!
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| 25 Dec 2004 12:24 am |
Some Guy You Don't Know Guest | Well here are my two cents after googling for “I am so lonely”
It’s a snowy Christmas Eve and I feel the coldness of time. I listen to songs from when I was younger and I think of the events that have gone by. I know I cause myself this pain, but I desperately long for the places and people that used to be my life.
I turned 24 a week ago and in my young age I constantly taste the bittersweet-ness that is nostalgia. Time is passing me by. Only in my mind can I replay the events of my life and dream. Dream of things that once were. Dream of her.
Loneliness is my prison forged from love. I realized it too late and now she’s been gone for years. Is free-will only an illusion and destiny reality? Perhaps in another life her and I will meet fatefully and missed opportunities will go on no longer.
I am the broken heart.
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| 25 Dec 2004 01:31 am |
VULGAR NEO Guest | Very amazing. I, like the rest of you typed the very same thing and look how this is snowballing. The sad thing is that nothing has changed. I am still lonely. Good luck with all of that. Solve your problems and nothing changes.
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| 26 Dec 2004 02:58 am |
ShadedAngel Guest | I have learned something today my fellow lost souls...I have learned that loneliness is not a disease that can be cured...it is not a plague that has befallen us due to a wrathful god or fate…it is not a passing pain that time will heal…It is these things and more. It is a lost love on a summers day…it is the cold that bites your heart when you pass a couple on the street…it’s a feeling that comes at night when your alone in your bed and the whole world turns with or without you in it…it is a way of life as you sit alone in your home never daring to wonder…it is a fate cast by death when dear ones fade…It is the beginning and it is the end of every relationship everywhere…it is a foe we cannot catch…an evil we cannot kill…it is everything and it is nothing…we know the answers yet we are powerless…I have learned so much…and I gained so little.
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