No one except my husband knows I’m lonely, because it’s hard to tell. I have a happy marriage and a two year old son that I adore, and my family lives close by and visits often. But nevertheless, I am lonely, sometimes achingly lonely....and here’s why. I have no friends...none. The last time I had a friend was in early high school, I am 27 years old now and have spent all these years without a single friend. I have casual acquaintinces, you know..people I talk to at work, but that’s where it ends. At my wedding three years ago I had two bridesmaids...my sister and my husbands sister. Thank God for them, because if they didn’t exist I would have been a bride without bridesmaids! It would almost be funny if it didn’t make me feel so goddamn empty inside. Recently I went to the wedding of one of my husbands friends, and the bride had six bridesmaids...all her friends. I remember watching that bride with a lump in my throat as she laughed and gossiped with her friends that night. Made me wonder what I was doing wrong..here was a girl with six friends, and I had none. Why? I’m a nice person..fairly outgoing, friendly, and able to get along with just about anyone. I’m not ugly or mean-spirited or anything like that...so why after so long..still no friends? And it HURTS! When you have not a single friend, even the little things hurt. Like when one of my husbands many friends calls him to go to a poker party...reminds me that no one ever calls for me. On my birthday...my mother and grandmother were the only ones who called. No friends...no phone calls. When I’m at the mall and I see two friends shopping together, laughing and talking...gives me that achy, empty feeling and I have to immediately swallow the tears that want to come. How nice it would be to have someone besides family call me just to say hi. To have a friend who’s also a mom to share the joys and hardships of child-rearing. T have any friend..any friend at all! I know there are people that have it much worse then me, but knowing that doesn’t make that empty feeling go away. Sometimes I think I’m maybe DESTINED to never have friends,like maybe it’s my fate or something. I know that sounds silly, but after all these lonely years, I just can’t help it. Is there anyone else out there who has no friends? It’s true what they say...misery does love company...I’m lonely, achingly lonely and miserable with no friends...if you feel the same, do you want company? Please respond, anyone...because it’d be nice to know I’m not the only “friendless wonder” out there. *sad smile*
#2
30 Dec 2004 01:54 pm
mcsimeyb
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There’s nothing worse than when you’re feeling lonely and everyone who you see in the street, in the shps...everywhere really, is with someone else. It makes you think that you’re wierd. But it doesnt mean that you are. I think some people are just better at being popular than others. I dont hink popularity is important though. I think the most important thing is to have friends and family who you can relate to and be yourself with. I have a (very) few of these and I am so grateful for them. But I also have alot of “friends” who I have nothing in common with and who I can’t be myself around. And this leads to feelings of lonliness too.
Maybe a suggestion could be to think of the type of people who you relate to and then think of a situation where you would find these people. This could be a certain type of night class or other group of some type. I know it involves stereotyping people and generalising but its worth a try. In your case you could try a young mother’s group or something similar.
Whatever you decide don’t let the lonely feelings you have tempt you to forget all the good you have in your life too. Like a family and husband you can talk to.
#3
04 Feb 2005 11:17 pm
someone
Guest
I feel so FUCKING empty, i am not loved
#4
14 Sep 2005 05:59 am
lonely london woman
Guest
Yes I know how it feels to be alone. My parents and family are dead. I have a daughter who lives with her boyfriend and thats about it. I havent seen my son, who is 14 for nearly three years. His Dad turned him against me. Since then I have been in limbo and now realise that I hardly know a soul. I worry to that if I died there would just be my daughter at my funeral. I wonder why and how it got to this. I did have friends years ago, but now there is only one or two people I know. I work from home so I know that’s half the reason, but it does make me feel weird. I feel so jealous when someone says they had a great time with their friends. I imagine them knowing 20 people and all having a get together. I imagine when I am down that the phone rings and rings and all my 'friends' want to cheer me up and offer to take me out or invite me to dinner with all our other friends.I feel so pathetic sometimes that it’s hard to deal with. I pretend to my daughter that I go out and have friends. The thing is that I have lost confidence in myself and people. Since my son went I have worried that people will question me about that and so have become reclusive in a way. Still, I am not giving up.........I would be an excellent friend to someone and I know that there are people out there. Wish me luck.
#5
15 Sep 2005 04:36 pm
Gomezwadams
Guest
I am lonely. I feel lonely, empty, and the only thing in my life is putting stuff on this site. I have had friends, but now I think they were my enemies. I now know that I am dog shit and who wants to knock about with dog shit. I met someone afew years back and she did change my miserable life, although I pretended to be someone else. I was awkward, and a real miserable sod. Now I think it is my destiny to be on my own and when I am dead I will be going to hell, I now believe that I am a loser.......... and there will be no help for me........
#6
26 Nov 2005 06:09 am
stranger.
Guest
oh i know how it feels really. because in fact, i feel the same way too. im someone from another side of the country and i just happen to chance upon your post. im here to let you know that you’re not the only one who’s feeling lonely. but lonely doesn’t means you’re pathetic and unloved. you have your husband, your mom..and relatives. at least, they’re people close to you. just a suggestion, organise a christmas party and invite relatives and allow them to bring their friends. it’s a way of widening your social circle. i believe this phase will past soon. be true to yourself and others and i believe there will be someone out there whom you have not met and when you do, both of you will make really good friends. take care and be strong.
lora- as long as you keep that desperate attitude the longer you are gonna go without friends. i’m not being mean by no means but it is true. for instance, when you have a job making alot of money it seems that more opportunitis come along. but when you have no job or no money its like rock bottom, nothing comes along. when it rains it pours and when the sun comes out it gets warmer. Ia’m the type of person who likes “alone time”, i like being by myself alot and it seems when i want this time is when my friends or family bothers me and wants me to do something or go somewhere, but when i want to do something no one is around to do anything with. basically im telling you to get rid of that attitude becuase it is written all over your face and people can smell it. if you think that way no friends will ever come along. just keep an attitude that you are happy, go out to places with your husband like play pool at a bar go bowling, just go somewhere where other couples would be and keep a smile on your face and i can guarantee you that you will meet another couple or just someone that wants to talk to you and you will start to gain friends. act like you have a self esteem, people like that, they hate people that are down, so just get rid of the down and out attitude and you will be thanking me in 3 months.
#8
27 Apr 2006 08:27 pm
Timmy the kid
Guest
Loralai wrote:
No one except my husband knows I’m lonely, because it’s hard to tell. I have a happy marriage and a two year old son that I adore, and my family lives close by and visits often. But nevertheless, I am lonely, sometimes achingly lonely....and here’s why. I have no friends...none. The last time I had a friend was in early high school, I am 27 years old now and have spent all these years without a single friend. I have casual acquaintinces, you know..people I talk to at work, but that’s where it ends. At my wedding three years ago I had two bridesmaids...my sister and my husbands sister. Thank God for them, because if they didn’t exist I would have been a bride without bridesmaids! It would almost be funny if it didn’t make me feel so goddamn empty inside. Recently I went to the wedding of one of my husbands friends, and the bride had six bridesmaids...all her friends. I remember watching that bride with a lump in my throat as she laughed and gossiped with her friends that night. Made me wonder what I was doing wrong..here was a girl with six friends, and I had none. Why? I’m a nice person..fairly outgoing, friendly, and able to get along with just about anyone. I’m not ugly or mean-spirited or anything like that...so why after so long..still no friends? And it HURTS! When you have not a single friend, even the little things hurt. Like when one of my husbands many friends calls him to go to a poker party...reminds me that no one ever calls for me. On my birthday...my mother and grandmother were the only ones who called. No friends...no phone calls. When I’m at the mall and I see two friends shopping together, laughing and talking...gives me that achy, empty feeling and I have to immediately swallow the tears that want to come. How nice it would be to have someone besides family call me just to say hi. To have a friend who’s also a mom to share the joys and hardships of child-rearing. T have any friend..any friend at all! I know there are people that have it much worse then me, but knowing that doesn’t make that empty feeling go away. Sometimes I think I’m maybe DESTINED to never have friends,like maybe it’s my fate or something. I know that sounds silly, but after all these lonely years, I just can’t help it. Is there anyone else out there who has no friends? It’s true what they say...misery does love company...I’m lonely, achingly lonely and miserable with no friends...if you feel the same, do you want company? Please respond, anyone...because it’d be nice to know I’m not the only “friendless wonder” out there. *sad smile*
I’m sorry you feel lonely
#9
01 Jul 2008 05:58 pm
guest24
Guest
hi am so lonely i need a friend to talk to for the rest of the summer
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